{"product_id":"finding-my-husband","title":"Finding My Husband","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan style=\"box-sizing: border-box; color: #0f1111; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; background-color: #ffffff;\"\u003e85 men. 10 years. A lot of first dates. And still, one surprisingly difficult question: Do I actually like him?\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003e\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003eAfter nearly a decade of dating, I realised I had become very good at going on dates. Unfortunately, this did not mean I had become particularly good at dating.\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003e\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003eIf I found someone attractive enough, I could become remarkably creative about his potential. I spent far too much time wondering whether a man liked me without stopping to consider whether I even wanted him.\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003e\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003eSo I created Finding My Husband .\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003e\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003ePart dating journal, part game and part much-needed reality check, this book is for women who want to keep their heads when chemistry starts doing suspicious things to their judgement.\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003e\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003eBefore you start assessing the men, you'll work out what you're actually looking for. Your non-negotiables, preferences, dealbreakers, the kind of life you want and how you want a relationship to feel. Then you can start collecting evidence.\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003e\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003eEach man becomes a Candidate. Each date gets reviewed.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul class=\"a-unordered-list a-vertical\" style=\"box-sizing: border-box; margin: 0px 0px 0px 18px; color: #0f1111; padding: 0px; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; background-color: #ffffff;\"\u003e\n\u003cli style=\"box-sizing: border-box; list-style: disc; overflow-wrap: break-word; margin: 0px;\"\u003e\u003cspan class=\"a-list-item\" style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003eCollect green flags.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli style=\"box-sizing: border-box; list-style: disc; overflow-wrap: break-word; margin: 0px;\"\u003e\u003cspan class=\"a-list-item\" style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003eInvestigate the yellow ones.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli style=\"box-sizing: border-box; list-style: disc; overflow-wrap: break-word; margin: 0px;\"\u003e\u003cspan class=\"a-list-item\" style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003eLose hearts for bad behaviour.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli style=\"box-sizing: border-box; list-style: disc; overflow-wrap: break-word; margin: 0px;\"\u003e\u003cspan class=\"a-list-item\" style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003eSend failed candidates to The Graveyard.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cspan style=\"box-sizing: border-box; color: #0f1111; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; background-color: #ffffff;\"\u003eYou'll keep track of how you feel around someone, whether his words match his behaviour, whether your lives are actually compatible and whether you're falling for the man in front of you or the potential you've assigned to him.\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003e\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003eThere are also checks for those particularly dangerous moments when you really like someone and your judgement becomes… flexible.\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003e\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003eAnd because the man isn't always the problem, there's an entire section devoted to you. Are you ignoring things because you're attracted to him? Searching for problems because closeness scares you? Confusing anxiety with chemistry? Trying to earn his affection? Or simply more interested in being chosen than in choosing?\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003e\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003eFinding My Husband won't tell you who to date. It gives you somewhere to record what actually happened, notice your patterns and work out what you think before your group chat gets involved.\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003e\u003cbr style=\"box-sizing: border-box;\"\u003eBecause you get a vote too.\u003c\/span\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"BookVAULT Publishing","offers":[{"title":"Perfect Bound","offer_id":67819726045488,"sku":"9781808973833","price":13.51,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true}],"url":"https:\/\/www.thegreatbritishbookshop.co.uk\/products\/finding-my-husband","provider":"The Great British Bookshop","version":"1.0","type":"link"}